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Great reporting

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"...their children may have “enjoyed immensely the sexual activities.”"

I have to say something about this.

YES, a 9-year-old girl MAY enjoy sexual activity. BUT... introducing that child to it can have LONG-TERM effects that are traumatizing to her. The feeling of shame, embarrassment, even when no one is around... the thought of it, the memories that surface as an adult can cause the adult person to verbally exclaim, "No..." and "don't", from the internal embarrassment, the feeling of shame, even while you're alone in your house doing the dishes. It takes a lot over years to dispell that feeling, remembering that you were exposed to it, you didn't choose it. "It's not your fault." So, yes, while that statement may be true (or prolonged abuse of a child wouldn't likely happen, unless by force), it does not excuse the behavior. It creates the ultimate in "awkward moments" between family members, friends of family, etc. Your relationship with that abuser becomes strained, even if you "get over it", for the rest of your life. You wonder if you will ever have a normal relationship with them. Even when you're 55 years old.

Of course, I am speaking from experience. Not as an expert.

That said, I don't think that this testimony or argument is valid in ANY case. Just because a child "enjoyed" having sex, doesn't make it right. It's CERTAINLY not an excuse for an educated adult. Two young children "experimenting", depending upon the age, maybe excuseable. A teenage boy who does this to a young girl, no. They should know better.

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